If We Bring the Boys Home…

Like I mentioned in my earlier post, I have been thinking through all of the details of what things will look like if we decide to bring the boys home.  I want to go into this with full understanding of what life will be like.

Most days will be just fine, but I would plan for the worst just in case.

What If?

If I do have to go back to rehab (again, not planning on it), the kids will stay with my mom doing basics there.  When I get out, I will go to AA a few evenings a week and/or weekends.  I will also take full advantage of online AA.

At this point, I will continue doing AA in town on Mondays, along with my counseling.  Robert is off 2 out of 3 Mondays so he will stay with them then, and the other Monday my mom will meet us in town to watch them (or they’ll just stay the weekend with her).

These are things we would implement:

“Bad Day Box”

This will contain activities, worksheets, books, etc for the days that I just can’t. I don’t think this will be something that I’ll have to use a lot, but it’s there if I need it.  Kind of like emergency sub plans.

Year-Round School

In order to take some time off as needed, we will school year round.  I think we’ll probably always take the month of June off because of camp for the kids and family camp at Glorieta.

Stick to the Basics

If I have a rough few weeks, we will do the basics (math, reading, writing, grammar, and maybe spelling).  We’ll pick morning time, science, history, etc back up once things settle down.

Self Care

I will need to focus on this every single day in order to be at my best.  This means I will sometimes have to put myself first.  I have learned over the past few years that it’s actually the farthest thing from selfish.  When I take good care of myself I am a better mom and wife.



I already have curriculum on my wishlist on Rainbow Resource so that once we have made a decision, I can buy what we need a little bit at a time.  I already have a lot of what we would need, and we would borrow some things from my neighbor.

For Ethan:

  • Math U See Gamma (borrowing the DVD from my neighbor)
  • Reading comprehension lessons using mentor texts, with good novels and reading response (I have all I need for this… post coming up about this). Fluency activities from FCRR.  These are free.
  • IEW All Things Fun and Fascinating theme-based book
  • Easy Grammar 3 and Khan Academy
  • All About Spelling (I have level 1 cards and level 2 teacher’s book; I’ll be buying level 1 book, level 2 cards, and level 3 from a friend)
  • Handwriting Without Tears cursive
  • Story of the World Volume 1 (already have, including CD’s and activity book)
  • Apologia Astronomy (I just need to buy a notebooking journal for him, already have the text and lab kit)

For Levi:

  • Math U See Beta (borrowing the DVD from my neighbor)
  • Reading comprehension and Fluency activities from FCRR.
  • IEW Primary Arts of Language Writing (I have the pdf file for the student book so all I would need is the teacher book)
  • Easy Grammar 2 and Khan Academy
  • All About Spelling
  • Handwriting will be covered through IEW PAL-W
  • Story of the World
  • Apologia Astronomy

It’s going to be very hard for me to wait until the end of May to share here (and Facebook) what our final decision is, but I must!

3 thoughts on “If We Bring the Boys Home…

  1. I’m sorry if I’m being inconvenient, that’s not my intention at all. I’m just wondering (because I read all of your posts) if bringing the boys home won’t be too much for you, since you are not 100% right now and need to focus on taking care of yourself. I ask this out of worry.

    • Yeah, that’s a concern which is why we’re still praying about it. I’m never going to be 100% because mental illness will never go away. It’s just really hard to go to school where we live. School is 40 minutes away. They are gone from the house from 6:20 till 4:30 every day. But if that’s what I need to do, we will continue. We definitely won’t be sending them to junior high and high school. It’s a rough school. Thanks for your concern. We’re keeping everything in mind as we pray :-).

      • Yes, I understand what you mean. I have severe depression. We can get better but we are never free from it. That must be really hard on the boys, I understand why you want to bring them home. You are strong, I believe you can do it! I will keep you and your family in my prayers! Thank you so much for answering!!

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