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This year has been one of big changes.
It started out with me homeschooling just Karis. We both LOVED this. Karis grew so much.
Then I brought the boys home in March.
I had major anxiety issues when I brought them home. Struggling through Hyperventilation Syndrome again. This basically means that I was hyperventilating 24/7 (well, not when I was sleeping). It was so difficult.
My doctor ended up putting me back on Lexapro and with-in a week, it was gone!! I haven’t struggled with it since.
Even though I planned to continue homeschooling through the summer, I ended up stopping for a month because Ethan was struggling so much. I thought that a break was just what he needed!
I went back on a diet (it’s what I do during the summer apparently). I did that diet for 3 months this time!! Whew. It was very rough.
We went to Glorieta, NM for Family Camp. It was fantastic, but I struggled with anxiety while we were there. We ended up leaving a day early because I just needed to be home because of that anxiety.
We picked back up on homeschooling immediately when we got back. I thought it was going pretty well! But what I didn’t know is that I was drinking to cope with being with my kids all day every day, homeschooling, and anxiety surrounding it all.
I drank a lot no matter what. I had a compulsion to drink. Once I started, I couldn’t stop. I got sick from it multiple times a week. I had times when I was shaky without the alcohol. I didn’t realize that those times were withdrawal. Many, many times I drank or got drunk before having community get togethers. Robert was incredibly worried because of this.
Finally on October 12th, after being sick yet again from being drunk, I decided I didn’t want to live that way anymore.
I emailed the leader of the Celebrate Recovery that I had just started going to, asking for names of treatment centers in the area.
This led me to La Hacienda.
This was the hardest and best decision I’ve ever made. Leaving my family for a whole month made me struggle desperately with the decision. Luckily they got me in the next day or I might have changed my mind.
La Hacienda was amazing. I actually miss it in lots of ways. I connected with people who were like me. I learned to accept people in ways that I never had before. I made new amazing friends that will be friends for life. I learned all about alcoholism and addiction and the fact that it’s a disease. It’s something that 15% of the population struggle with. It kills so many people. It’s a deadly disease. Lots of people there have been to jail, prison, and been through so much. Many had been in the hospital multiple times because of it. Most people had very high liver enzymes (mine were kind of high, but not terrible). This is what leads to death for many.
While I was at La Ha, I made the really hard decision to stop doing something that I loved for the benefit of my kids and for self care. I decided to put the kids in school. And Robert and I decided that this will be a forever decision.
My sobriety has to come first. From now on I will be going to town 2-3 times a week for AA. I will continue my step work until I’m through the 12 steps, then I will begin sponsoring women. My life is completely new and exciting. I will be bringing my experience, strength, and hope to other alcoholics! I will serve in AA.
I will also continue focusing on self care. It’s what will help with my mental health as well as sobriety.
This self care means that I love myself just the way I am. I eat healthy for self care, and I eat unhealthy for self care. I will start yoga soon and maybe pick up hiking again, all for self care. I will continue picking up healthy habits including working on my sleep habits, drinking more water, and picking up fun hobbies. Getting up early and spending time in the Word, praying, and meditating are all part of self care.
I will begin serving my community. I know that we are here for a reason and a purpose, and I want to live that out.
I will continue working on purging our home to make it a less stressful place to live. I will continue being organized because that’s self care for me.
We will continue working hard on budgeting and sticking to the budget so that we can pay off debt and have money in savings. Now that I’m not spending a fortune on alcohol, it’s possible!
Life is so good. I never imagined that I would be in a place that I was mentally healthy, sober, and living the life I only dreamed I could have.
God is so good! He is the reason for it all. I wouldn’t be where I am without Him.
Here are some pictures of this past year!
As you can see, even through the hard times, it has been a great year. The hard times just made me a new person! I cannot complain about those times. I’m so grateful today!
Coming out of rehab in November, I was kind of nervous about spending the holiday season sober.
This Christmas has been amazing, and it’s the first Christmas season in years that I have had alcohol free.
We spent Saturday, December 17th at my parents. Meemaw and Carter joined us! The food was delicious and the company was great! Then the kids stayed there till Wednesday. They had a blast! Here are a few pics from that day.
Robert and I had several days off together and we celebrated our anniversary (as I’ve previously written about).
We left Friday to come to Glorieta, NM (where my in-laws live)!
The kids have had a blast since we’ve been here!
Saturday they spent the day making snowmen and sledding down the small hill next to the lodge that we are staying in.
Then we made a gingerbread house and decorated “ugly Christmas sweater” cookies.
We enjoyed a quiet evening eating yummy food, playing games, sitting by the fire place, and chatting.
We left Santa some cookies, an apple, and water (my kids don’t believe anymore, but my nephew does!).
Sunday morning, we woke up to fresh snow!! It snowed most of the morning. It was beautiful and perfect.
The kids really enjoyed their Christmas presents and didn’t complain about not receiving much (it was just shoes, books, socks, and underwear along with some small stocking stuffers).
The kids enjoyed opening presents from Grandma and Grandaddy and playing with their new toys!
Then they went sledding on the big hill!
Merry Christmas from the Croslands!
I LOVE my HHHM group. Every single day they convince me to love myself as is.
Bringing these to do in New Mexico with our kids and niece and nephew!
I received my order from Amazon! I plan to bake lots of breakfast items with this to have more protein with my breakfasts.
It’s supposed to snow where we’re going for Christmas!
Ethan loves music! Playing “drums” on things around him, singing into karaoke machine, and “playing” guitar! Sweet boy!
We let the kids open their big Christmas gift early. They were so shocked and excited!
They played together for hours that night!
Granny and Pawpaw bought the kids a Karaoke machine. They love it!
I got to play original Mario Bros with Robert. This brought me back to when Joey and I were little. It made me want to tell him, then I realized I couldn’t. It was a sad, sweet memory.
The kids now have great chairs to play the WII! They love it!
It’s Grati-Tuesday! It’s the day I share what I’m grateful for!
Yummy breakfast cookies!
My girl took notes at church (terrible handwriting and spelling, but I’m happy that she was engaged!).
Fun selfie with funny photo bombers! (this was right before family pictures)
Yummy homemade yogurt in fun jars!
Easy, yummy dinner!
Fire in fireplace in the camp office for Sunday night “church.” We discuss hardships and what we learned by it (how God was glorified).
My daily docket that helps me be organized and actually get stuff done!
Easy, short, effective Healthy Habits, Happy Mom strength circuits (will be doing 20 minute ones soon… adding one thing at a time!).
Amazing coffee that tastes like Christmas!
A whole gallon bag full of homemade granola.
Camp Christmas party complete with yummy dinner and white elephant gift exchange!
2 months of sobriety!!
She Reads Truth Bible studies!! These are amazing and I have been doing them for several years now! Right now they are doing an Advent Study. It’s fantastic.
What are you grateful for on this Grati-Tuesday?
I have a group in which I ask every day what the beautiful ladies are doing to take care of themselves that day. If you’re interested in being in it, send me a message and I’ll be glad to see if you should be in it :-). The group is here: Home of the Croslands.
Since today is #movementmonday in my Healthy Habits, Healthy Moms group, I will be doing the HHHM Strength Circuits Workouts. It’s cold and rainy so I won’t be running (the roads are all dirt and rocks here at camp so it will be slippery!).
Hopefully I can do my Monday Couch to 5k workout tomorrow. I’m learning to be more flexible :-).
In addition to my workout:
1. Holiday blend coffee (with Pyure and half and half instead of sugar) and Bible study/prayer journal
2. Eat my healthy breakfast (homemade Greek yogurt and homemade granola with fruit)
3. Shower, dry hair, put on makeup
4. Take my medication and supplements
5. Enjoy classical Christmas music
6. Go to AA
7. Enjoying the Christmas lights (I want to keep a tree up year round!)
8. Blogging 🙂
9. Not cooking tonight!! Eating in the dining hall!! That means no dishes as well!
10. Keeping a clean house (as I shared yesterday)
11. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help with my anxiety when it hits (which is rare these days)
12. Going to lunch with my hubby!
What are you doing for self care today?
Years ago, a friend of mine started a “Gratituesday” post in a group that we’re in, and she has continued it to this day. I always love commenting what I’m thankful for (when I see it). I have decided that I will start a “Gratituesday” blog every week! I do write 3-10 things that I’m thankful for to my sponsor every day, but it’s fun to include pictures and more details, so that’s what this post will be!
Some of these are repeats of a thankful post that I wrote last week, and some of these will repeat each week… but I’ll try to update with new pictures if they do repeat :-).
Robert and I decided to buy a pair of shoes for ourselves as a Christmas gift… yes it’s early, but we do that every year. These are hand painted Toms. Toms are my favorite shoe, and these are my favorite Toms ever!
I have been working on creating healthy habits. The first one is doing the Couch to 5k program again! I did Day 1 yesterday, and I repeated it today with a good friend of mine. We’re going to do the program together! I’m super excited about it.
I feel like we did a pretty good job for our first time together :-).
The desire to create life-long habits, one at a time!
After our run/walk, I decided to take a hike on my own for my mental health and to spend some time in prayer. I got quite a few steps in and 101 active minutes!
This is a typical lunch for me when I got to town! This is cottage cheese, Greek yogurt, Triscuits, cucumbers, broccoli, and carrots with hummus.
Robert made me a healthy lunch today! It’s lemon pepper flounder with leftover roasted veggies (acorn squash, yellow squash, zucchini, sweet potato, onion, and russet potato). Yum! (I also had 2 cookies… because… balance).
When I don’t have eggs in corn tortillas or oatmeal, I have a green smoothie :-). This one is frozen banana, frozen kale, frozen berries, almond milk, protein powder (I don’t do THM anymore, but I love their protein powder), and spirulina.
One of my favorite drinks is Bai with apple cider vinegar. I also sometimes use sparkling water with apple cider vinegar in it.
This makes me so happy! My boys all playing with Legos together :-).
Levi decided to write this all on his own in his journal! I’ll translate: Turkey, home, parents, and God, world, family, friends, and other people, rain, water, food, pizza, sandwich, donuts, ice cream.
Ethan wrote these in his journal! He is growing so much!
I’m thankful that the month of meals is planned, and I have an organizational system that works for Robert and I. Most of these meals are things we already have here so it should be a light month on our grocery budget!
Mulled cider candle!
The little tree that Robert made last year out of branches. It’s so fun!
Christmas books to read as a family!
My new haircut!!!
I could probably keep going, but I end it for now! What are you grateful for today?
When I went into La Hacienda, I had no idea what was to come! I went in thinking it would be 30 days out of my life, then I would come home and live the life I was living when I went in.
Little did I know… life was about to change completely.
The day I met with my case manager/counselor for the first time, I realized that I could no longer go on as I was.
She told me the first time we met that she recommends 90 meetings in 90 days. This includes AA and counseling. I said, “but I homeschool!” She said, well however you can make it work, you need to. The relapse rate is really high in the three months after rehab, so everyone there recommends that. At that point she told me that sobriety isn’t just rehab then done. It’s a life-long commitment to AA and working the program. I felt like someone had ripped my heart out. But in that moment I knew what I needed to do.
I called Robert and he thought it was great that I was thinking about putting the kids in school. He said that if they were in school, they could be home instead of at my parents’. Not that being at my parents’ was a bad thing, but it wasn’t home. Plus, they weren’t able to do much school there.
It took a few days of me praying through it. Mostly for my heart to be okay with this huge change.
I called the kids and just asked how they would feel about going to school. Karis immediately started crying saying she wants to be homeschooled. The boys were all about it.
I talked with Robert and he reminded me that Karis would be okay if we made the decision to put them in school. But my mama heart hurt for her.
I continued to pray.
The next day I called to tell them that we were going to put them into school. Karis was actually *excited*! Her heart had changed.
And that was that. They were not going to be homeschooled anymore.
I have since realized that homeschooling was actually driving me to drink more. It was causing me a ton of anxiety, and I didn’t realize it. I have been selling curriculum the past few days and it has brought me so much peace!
On another note… something else that is different is how we are approaching Christmas this year! The kids no longer believe in Santa (which is a huge relief!). We have decided that we are only buying them four gifts: want, need, wear, read. When I told them this, Levi got upset that he was only going to received one toy. I asked him what Christmas is all about, and he told me “Jesus!” He immediately stopped being upset. We are not buying gifts for any adults this year, and we are going to give to a family in need instead of buying for our niece and nephew. Christmas will be about Jesus and family this year! I’m so excited about that.
We ended up putting our Christmas stuff yesterday! I know it’s early, but that’s just me :-). I love Christmas and enjoy celebrating it as long as possible! It brings me so much peace to have the Christmas tree up with lights and listening to Christmas music. It reminds me of the beautiful times in my life. I have always loved Christmas!
My grandpa made this for me the year I got married! I love it!
We need some more lights. We’ll get some more this week. I can see big holes in the tree :-).
I moved the coffee table into my room to make room for the tree. I love all the lamp light in our room! The shelves were moved in there when we gave the “school room” to Levi as his own room!
After cleaning out all of the curriculum from our cabinet, I decided to use it for crafts again! There is also a stack of holiday books.
On another note… the kids had their first program at school on Friday! It was for Veteran’s Day! They had so much fun!
Our new life is so good! Tomorrow starts my new routine! Up early (5:45), get kids ready for school, quiet time and coffee, get ready, leave for counseling appointment at 11, AA at noon, coming home and working out (strength training and hiking), picking the kids up from the bus at the end of our dirt road, homework, dinner in the dining hall (which is becoming less and less this time of year), read aloud and prayer with kids, put them to bed early (7:30), shower, and time with my hubby before an early bed time for me!